Kat - My sympathies to you regarding your uncle... that hurts. But at least popo boy was there for you
and he sounds like a gentleman at least, if nothing happened! If all you two did was sleep, I don't really see how much has changed - or if you have to go along with anything. Then again, I have skewed ideas when it comes to guys
let us know how he handled it?
Ami - I'm sorry about things with J.. but at least the other guy had the decency/heart to tell you, and honestly J sounds like an ass. And if you see him at the parties, be the bigger person and just be civil, cordial.. with absolutely no emotion. He wasn't fair to you, but keep in mind that he possibly doesn't realize that and probably had no intentions to do so. And you will find a guy to like you back, I promise. I had difficulty with that in high school (geez, I had a huge crush on Charles since, like.. sophomore year...), but things changed once I got here. New crowd, new people... and folks change in general. It gets easier as time goes by
believe me for years I was always the one crushing hopelessly on the boys with absolutely NO response. But we live! I hope the parties aren't too hard on you..
And regarding the texts - perhaps something like "Look I enjoy texting you but maybe could we save this for when I'm not so low on texts? My plan's screwy, but talk later, ok?" would suffice?
Mel - That sounds fun
I kinda wish I could go do something like that.. but at the moment I am confined to crutches, and B is being so sweet that I think I would hate myself if I did.
Julia - Tell your friend to start up a Gay/Straight Alliance; it's a big organization, and you can start local chapters. And if she's asking you to join, she's looking for support from her community - and has no obligation to tell you "what she is." You can ask her if you want, but she does not need to divulge her identity in order to justify what she's starting. It might be incredibly personal to her - if she wants to tell you, she will. Believe her, and until she tells you, why does it matter? It has nothing whatsoever to do with balls - and good god do not confront her about it.
I'm sorry high school isn't treating you well
joining this club could maybe introduce you to a different circle - different friends? Expanding might help some
and things will get better, dear. And if joining makes things worse for you, then honestly what does that say about the people in question?
So B.. oooh dear. After the day spent in his room, things were a little skirty/tense for a bit but then cleared up..
I was leaving their suite one night, and he followed me out the door to kiss me goodnight. And then Thursday I sprained(or fractured?) my ankle in a bike accident.. lovely. He's been so helpful since then- getting stuff from my room for me, helping me around, he and BestFriend (who visited at a very opportune time!) piggybacked me to and from BestFriend's car.. And then Friday. We were all hanging out, ate take-out in their room.. and then while the Girl and I baked, the guys all went out and got high. B joined us in the kitchen later, tried to get an arm around my shoulders, I brushed him away. Later he asked me about it, I told him potheads bug me- which after a bit led to a huge conversation about how he was glad I reminded him where his priorities lay, etc.etc... and I ended up just sleeping there. (No sex.) And then Halloween, he and his friends got me a shopping cart to ride around in so I wouldn't have to hobble.. and guess where I slept again?
...so yeah, I have no idea where things are going with us, I don't want a relationship just after Charles and I died. But he's so sweet, and I feel I should ask him what he wants.... hm. In the meantime though, I'll let him help me around and be a pillow
Love you all! -Karin